Q and A 2: PG Lady owner shouts at me

Q. My paying-guest owner shouts in a high-ptich. How should I deal with this nuisance ?

A. People are good at passing on their baggage to us, and we do the same to others. When your owner screams at you in high pitch she is doing it out of her own ignorance about the problem she is trying to address. You have decided that 'I dont like high pitch'. And that becomes a problem for you. If you can question that 'why I dont like high pitch?, what made me like this?' and be with that question without judging, then there is a possibility that you can find a way out. We very easily put blame on other the way he/she is, we don't like to question our assumptions. If you consciously observe, we are fully loaded with assumptions that we have arrived at due to our prior experience or due to believing in somebody's statement. That prohibits us to see the way somebody "is". We see him/her through our filters of assumptions. Assumption is our own creation and unfortunately we are caught up in it very badly. The onus of change, if any, is not on other; its on me. The other may or may not change but at the least I become free of the way the other is. This is one of the ways to deal with such situations.